How To Deal With Your Spanish Partner

 

 

The Spanish are an emotional lot and it can be disconcerting at times to get the full impact of the emotions which can shift to high gear. For those who are not accustomed to the peaks and lows of the Spanish emotions, it can be frustrating and confusing.

If you have a Spanish partner it is important to communicate in the Spanish language or if this is really impossible, know enough of the Spanish culture to clue you in on how to deal with all the emotions flowing through a relationship.

It really does not matter if the relationship were platonic, emotional or business, dealing with a Spanish partner can be hazardous to your health, so you really need to prepare.

First of all, you have to look at things from an objective point of view. The Spanish are an emotional people, so let that clue you in to always take a step back and look at things objectively. This is the only way to sift through all of the emotional upheavals which can strike suddenly especially if there is stress.

Second, you need to be patient, very patient. The Spanish can shout and wave their arms around and even pace back and forth dramatically. This is not the way most Americans deal with things. But don’t let all the noise bother you, it is the Spanish way of dealing with stress or high emotions. They behave the same way when they are very excited. At times, most of the time, the family members all get involved and talk all at the same time. It is quite a noisy ordeal but surprisingly, they communicate this way and understand each other well enough. Let them be and stand by patiently until your opinion is asked for.

Third, for those in an emotional partnership, remember the extended family members of the Spanish culture are very close to one another. This means that whatever happens to one member will be the business of all. You have to be prepared to take that at face value. This is a family system which is clannish and anything good that happens to one will be good for all, and if anything bad happens to one will be bad for all. If you cannot take this type of relationship, then you have to just swallow it.

Fourth, there is not much privacy in this type of relationship so be prepared for a lot of ribbing and a lot of concerned family members. You should just take it easy and know that the whole busybody culture is a way to show the member that they are loved and protected by the whole clan.

Getting into a relationship with a person whose culture is very different from the American culture is definitely confusing and frustrating if you don’t let up and just relax. One thing you can rely on though, it is never boring.

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